Is it such a bad thing? {ref: need to belong entry}
A friend asked me:
Is there anything wrong to want to be like your friends?
my reply:
hehehe just that i lose my identity and self?
their response:
does that matter?
My response:
well too much of something isnt good anyway
it means even if u feel suffering you dont want out cos u want to belong?
it means you cant express yourself because you agree with everyone else?
..
So I guess it's the too much thing, and the restrictedness.. and it's like joining a gang.. -- that's why there are gangs - cos ppl want to belong
Continued:
X:
why do you think today's society values "individuality" so much?
Me:
cos ppl conformed too much in the olden days?
cos bad things happened in the past when ppl followed a big crowd?
hnmmmm
well i suppose ppl want to be outstanding as well
and ppl want to be noticed.seen
ppl want to be famous
X:
yeahh.... so it's really self-centeredness
Me:
yeh..
but i wasnt exactly focused on that alone
i suppose there are two ways of looking at it
it's what stumbles you
and others
helpfulness
and maybe questioning of self.. why are you doing this? etc
and low self esteem
X:
anyway ... okay well i guess trying too hard to conform isn't good...
Me:
nods
X:
but not conforming for the sake of being different isn't good idea
Me:
yes true true
basically all about which is helpful or not
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=)
1 Comments:
It's a hard thing to say... If everyone decided to just get along with everyone else by doing what they did, then there would not be any progress. Everyone would be the same, doing the same things, sharing in both the same strengths and weaknesses.
God did make us with different gifts. God intended for us to be different. It is still helpful to get along with other people and share common values yet at the same time it is also helpful to have diversity, initiative, etc. So this all goes back to it being "a hard thing to say". You kinda need to be the same and different at the same time, in a wise way.
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