Being nice doesn't mean you are being loving, sometimes being nice can be disasterous for that person..
If your friend was smoking for example, and you were just nice about it, then, how is that loving?
Sigh,... but it can be so hard..
But being nice And loving is a different thing, I find that I respond better to that than those who just go out and directly point out my wrong doing.. if you don't get what i mean ask me to clarify..
Another thing is, doing something nice for someone - you may think it is loving.. but the other person isnt thinking in that way..
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Telling the truth, it can be the hardest thing, and yet the easiest, depending on what it is..
I've found that it is hard when you know that by telling the truth it will be bad and not helpful..
and from psych I know/observed that sometimes if you say something someone else doesn't know, by saying it can put something in their mind..
hmm..
example,.. have you ever been in a convo where you told someone something,.. and then they say "now that you tell me...___" or "ohh i didn't think of that?" -- the negative side - like gives them bad ideas?
of course there's also the positive side as in their response could be positive.. but it really depends on what you are talking about..
In terms of easiest? well I find sometimes that I can tell the truth easily, or more like I am conditioned to "must tell the truth" etc to authority like figures :P
Sometimes I seem to live in a fantasy world where I think that people don't mind if I speak the truth, -- and that's where my bluntness comes in..
it's like i either say things bluntly or im so cryptic that people don't know what im on about..
maybe i have multi personalities :P or I'm two sided gemini [-- a friend once said he was haha]
